You may call me Kalika.
I reside at the threshold—where the desires of your holistic nature meet your taboo, sacred self.
This is where I invite you to meet me.
Free. Playful. Primal. Non-conforming. Gender-bending.
This is how I move.
And it is how I meet you.
My Dominant, fluid nature is not summoned— it is invoked.
It comes alive through sincerity and integrity.
So I ask this of you: come as you are— without pretense, without performance.
Some experience me as a Shamanatrix—
a guide through the upper and lower realms of psyche and eros, where shadow and truth intertwine.
Others meet me as an Enchanter—
unravelling what has bound them,
and weaving a life of passion, vitality, and embodied truth.
My nature is tender, passionate, and unwavering—
capable of meeting you in nurturing softness
or unflinching intensity,
depending on what truth arises through our interdependence.
I walk beside you as a companion in awakening—
not to a version of yourself,
but to the entirety of your being:
spiritual, sexual, somatic, emotional, energetic.
With me, you are invited into integration—
into the lived embodiment of all that you are, as everything you have been through and everything you wish to become, converge, and reconcile.
What lights me up?
Intimacy and connection that strips away distortion.
Diversity, inclusion, and the sacredness of contrast.
Leaning into the unknown edges within ourselves—
especially those we’ve been taught to hide.
And exploring power dynamics, story telling, and paradox as roadmaps for self-actualization.
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2005 BA in Philosophy with Concentration in Bioethics and Taoism
2005 Training in Zen Buddhism under Adhyashanti (lineage of Arvis Joen Justi, Taizan Maezumo Roshi, and Jakusho Kwong)
2006 Ashtanga Yoga Teacher Certification from the Yoga Kingdom Sanctuary in CA (Lineage of Paramahamsa Yogananda, and Babaji)
2007 Training in Kriya Yoga from the Self Realization Fellowship (lineage of Paramahamsa Yogananda, and Babaji)
2009 Training and Certification (in 2012) in Sri Shakti Healing and Meditation from the Shiva Sai Mandir in Andhra Pradesh, India (lineage of Sri Kaleshwar, Shirdi Said Baba, Paramahamsa Yogananda, and Babaji)
2014 Began a seven year mentorship as a submissive under the care of one specific male dominant who trained me in BDSM
2016 Began a four year mentorship as a dominatrix under the guidance and supervision of the same male dominant
2021 Dr. Joe Dizpenza Intensive and Progressive Courses
2022 ‘Science and Practice of Heart Coherence’ course from Heart Math Institute and Rollin McCraty PhD
2023 Dr. Joe Dizpenza Progressive Course for Personal Transformation
2024 Colette Pervette Shadow Series Dominatrix Training
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SYSTEMS
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process created by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D
Synergetic Geometry formulated by R. Buckminster Fuller
Blueprint for Pleasure created by Jaiya
Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique (QHHT) by Dolores Cannon
INDIVIDUALS
Kasia Urbaniak (trained for 17 yrs to be a Taoist nun while working as a successful Dominatrix in NYC)
Byron Katie and her teachings
Gangaji and her teachings
Eckhart Tolle and his teachings
Krishnamurti and his teachings
Hafiz
Rumi
Gregg Braden and his research
Sarah Breskman Cosme and her work as a QHHT practitioner
Thomas Hübl and his work on connection, trauma, and collective healing through interdependence
BOOKS
“The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture” By Gabor Mate
“Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power” by Carolyn Elliott Ph.D
“The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron
“Living a Committed Life” & “The Soul of Money” by Lynne Twist
“The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran
“Attuned” by Thomas Hübl
“Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Power” by Kasia Urbaniak (a read on applied spirituality for everyone, not just women)
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Consent, as I know it now, was not something I was taught —
it was something I was initiated into through D/s dynamics.First through surrender, then through holding power.
And in both directions, I came to recognize the same truth:
Consent is not an agreement nor a one time occurrence, but rather an ongoing living current between sovereign individuals.
Within each of us, consent ongoingly flows. We can directly and immediately feel its presence and its absence and truth is revealed as this occurs.
Consent is where truth meets both desire and willingness —
Consent is a yes arising through the entire body as something unmistakable, honest, and holistically coherent.Consent is something that is given, never taken, and can be revoked any time.
To enter this work with me is to step into your own relationship with your field of consent within you - the full body yes.
Before our first session, we have a discovery call. And if we feel alignment and desire to take a next step, we then move into a negotiation.
During the discovery call and the negotiation, we explore your desires, your edges, your curiosities, and your limits and boundaries. And I share mine with you. We do this through clear, unambiguous, honest communication.
During the negotiation, we practice consent by going over activities and safety protocols, including medical conditions, physical limitations, and safewords.
I only proceed into a session with you when the alignment is real and felt by us both.
During the session, my attention is o what you say and on what your body reveals.
I listen for the places where your consent feels clear and coherent and the places where it seems to trembles.
Shallow breath.
Physical tension and contraction.
Micro-shifts in energy.And when I feel your body resist, we pause the session and check in.
Any uncertainty you feel is valid and honored throughout our whole time together.
You are invited — again and again — to feel, notice, name, and embody what is true for you in real time.
This is part of the initiation: learning to recognize your own edge as it arises, and to stay in relationship with it without abandoning yourself.
The D/s dynamic, the power exchange, we enter is not built on control over you. The power dynamic between us is built on integrity, attunement, and on the understanding that we are both responsible for what is being created between us through standing in power with each other.
Power, here, is something we generate together and because of that, integrity is non-negotiable.
If a boundary is crossed, whether it is named or felt, we bring it into the open.
Limits and boundaries are honored and if they are crossed by either one of us, we close the container and debrief.
This form of exploration asks something very real of you. It asks for your honesty, awareness, and your willingness to stay present at the edge of yourself without collapsing or bypassing the truth of what you’re experiencing.
Consent, in this space, becomes more than permission and healthy boundaries — it becomes a mirror.
Consent as a mirror is way of seeing where you override yourself…
and where you are ready to choose differently.And if you stay with the flow of your own consent — truly stay in your felt-sense of it — this current will take you somewhere most people never allow themselves to go:
Into a deeper trust of your Higher Self.
Into a more embodied truth of what feels right for you.
Into a version of yourself that no longer needs to fake a yes
that isn’t real and does not compromise safety or basic needs.Practicing ongoing consent and healthy boundaries will change you to your core.